Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Al-Kisah : lelaki melayu disunting lelaki britain


LONDON - Seorang lelaki Britain, Ian Young menyunting seorang mak nyah warga Malaysia yang dikenali sebagai Fatine untuk menjadi 'isterinya', lapor sebuah akhbar semalam.

Ian, 30, yang memiliki sebuah syarikat penyelenggaraan hartanah berkahwin dengan Fatine, 36, dalam satu majlis sivil di sini Mei lepas.

Dia berkenalan dengan Fatine di sebuah kafe Starbucks di Menara Berkembar Petronas, Kuala Lumpur pada Ogos 2006 ketika dia bekerja sebagai pegawai keselamatan di Malaysia.

Terpegun dengan kejelitaan mak nyah tersebut, Ian yang pada mulanya menyangka Fatine seorang wanita, cuba memikatnya.

Lelaki itu berkata, keserasian antara mereka menimbulkan bibit cinta dan dia berasa bertuah dapat bertemu dengan kekasih yang mengambil berat dan pandai menjaga hatinya.

"Saya tidak peduli sama ada dia seorang mak nyah. Saya mencintai keperibadiannya. Bagi saya Fatine seorang wanita yang cantik dan menawan," kata Ian yang sebelum ini mempunyai seorang teman wanita berbangsa Inggeris.

Fatine atau nama sebenarnya Mohammed Fazdil Min Bahari mengambil hormon wanita sejak berusia 17 tahun.

Jurusolek itu tidak mahu melakukan pembedahan penukaran jantina kerana takut pada risiko di samping gembira dengan keadaan dirinya yang sedia ada.

Pada Disember 2008, Ian membawa Fatine ke Britain dengan menggunakan visa pelawat tetapi 'isterinya' itu kini bakal dihantar pulang Malaysia kerana tinggal di negara itu melebihi tempoh enam bulan. - Agensi

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Ian says: "Being a straight man I did have a few concerns about the way I was feeling.

"I wondered if it meant I was gay and I was scared what had happened wasn't right, but I couldn't ignore how I felt."

Fatine also nervous about starting a relationship in a country where transsexuals are often sacked or arrested.

Ian says: "She was disowned by her mother and had encountered a lot of prejudice.

"I began to understand that Fatine and her friends were not a freak show but ordinary people like you or me who just happened to have been born into the wrong body."

When Ian's contract finished five months later he returned to Derby, but he and Fatine realised they both felt strongly about each other. Ian arranged to return to Kuala Lumpur to work, but not before telling all to his mum Patricia.

He recalls: "Mum was fantastic. Having her support was a huge weight off my shoulders."

On his second visit, in October 2007, Ian and Fatine felt ready for a physical relationship.

Ian says: "I was scared about what would happen if sex didn't work. I needn't have worried and it only helped bring us closer. If you love someone, you accept their body no matter how it is."

In December 2008 Ian arranged for Fatine to travel to the UK on a visitor's visa. However, a holiday soon became a long-term stay.

Ian says: "The realisation we could walk down the street together and be happy made it hard to contemplate ever going back to Malaysia.

"I started feeling incredibly proud to have Fatine on my arm."

A month into Fatine's visit Ian proposed and they applied to the Home Office for a Certificate of Approval to Marry. This allowed them to proceed with a civil partnership, which they hoped would support Fatine in getting a permanent visa.

Ian says of the ceremony: "My friends and family turned out to Derby Register Office and their presence was a huge boost.

"Everyone was so supportive. Mum said, 'I've got a son and a daughter now'. For Fatine it was strange to be surrounded by people who were so accepting of her and our relationship.

"Fatine wore a beautiful red silk dress and looked utterly stunning."

Ian has been pleasantly surprised by people's acceptance. He says: "There is always a moment of shock on their face when they find out Fatine isn't a woman. Seconds later they accept it, then ask if I'm gay. But, as strange as it sounds, I'd never say I fancy men."

Despite their dedication to each other, the couple's plans to stay in the UK are now in turmoil after Fatine's Leave To Remain Visa was refused in September on the grounds of an incorrect passport photo.

Their second application was rejected because it was received after Fatine's visitor's visa expired. She has now been told to return to Malaysia.

Ian says: "I simply don't accept the reasons we have been given for each refusal of the application.

"Our local MP has even got in touch with the Home Office but they won't budge. They say Fatine has to return to Malaysia, which is something we wouldn't be able to do as a couple.

"Over there we would face imprisonment just for living together.

"We want to do simple things like have a mortgage. We feel desperate, our options are quickly running out.

"Fatine can reapply from Malaysia but who knows how long that would take, or if it would even be accepted.

"We might be different from your average couple but we love each other - and being forced apart is our worst nightmare."

Head of Immigration for the UK Border Agency, Matthew Coats, said: "This applicant entered the UK as a visitor. The rules are clear that a visitor must leave the UK within six months but may reapply for a new visa from their country of origin."

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erkk... adehhh apa kes plak ni ek.. ngee... terpampang lagik nama dak lelaki tu.. nama melayu plak tu ek.. hmm shin x tau nak komen apa.. cuma kalo bole.. mintak Allah jauhkan la benda benda ni semua dari shin dan kita semua ek.. xmo ikutkan perasaan sangat..

moral of the story : saje shin tepek kisah tu kat sini.. sebab shin baru terbaca.. ngee.. kot kot korang berminat nak tau.. bukan suruh ikot ek... lu pikir la sendiri~


bahagia ker kat dunia? bahagia ker kat akhirat nanti?

sekian~

m(^o^)m

*i'm shin.. i'm inesen

15 comments:

yul said...

uh..klaka pon ade bla bca crite ni..
mmg cnta tu buta la kot.
huhuhu

tp tover suda.
wat malu org islam aje.
adoi..
huhuhu

tp ntah la..
no komen..
kng komen lbh2 kna gam plak.
uh..

AzAz said...

kesah basi ni ye... 1st tgk kt paper, pas2 blog abg KDL dan blog abg Mazidul, lag ni kt sini plak?

kira bertuah dier tu dpt laki mat salleh yg kiut...

TAPI bab kawin tu dh kira TERover lah plak... dh le mmg klu mati x cium bau syurga, tapi prbuatan dier ni mengheret skali mak dia yg bodoh tu msuk neraka...

lanz_evo7 said...

erm..
sejauh mane keserasian dia org kte x tau.entah2 esok lusa da berpisah..
cinta semusim kata org.jemu belah la mamat salleh tu.yg merana??
mereka dn keluarga mereka..huhu

bOyFeiZ said...

haisyy!!

kolom konek jugak..org kawin nak dapat karipap kan..elok bela anak ikan mat saleh...alang2 dah gtu..

Arie Anuar said...

pe kes la ni kan..
kalau laki sama laki takyah la sampai nak kawin..
bukan leh dapat anak pun..

Terry said...

eh. I can understand that love is blind. tapi, we're islam, we have boundries. and kalau tak ikot boundries tu, musnah lor hidup :( .
I guess Fatine dah overstep the boundries... anyhow... hopefully Fatine will find the true path somehow. :( .

hey, being PLU, LGBT is not easy. its a curse. either takdir or saja gatal nak jadi camntu, tetap kena tawakal and redha and cuba beribadah and buat yang terbaik untuk mendapat keredha'aan illahi.

:)

i'm shin... i'm inesen said...

hmm setiap sesuatu tu ada limit nya la ek.. so jgn over limit.. benda ni agak sensitip.. lebih2 lagi melibatkan org melayu.. Islam lak tu.. hmm bahaya woo...

shin percaya korang masih bijak mengatur hidup korang agar tidak melampaui batas.. bagus bagus bagus!

Arie Anuar said...

agree,terry..
life as PLU bkn senang..
kena ingat yg idup ni tak lama..
tp takleh nak tipu diri sendiri gak..

Terry said...

eh? kita memang hidup dalam penipuan pon, tak kira la str8 or PLU. huhu....
tak caye?
look around and observe.

i'm shin... i'm inesen said...

erkk jgn menipu org lain udah la ek.. x baik tau menipu... aiyooo dosa!!

armouris said...

info tentang pertukaran jantina kat sini - Kekeliruan Identiti Jantina

Anonymous said...

selamat pengantin baru!

Anonymous said...

Habislah batang mat salleh tu dikolom dgn taik palatnya sekali .Mat salleh untung dapat sebar virus Aidsnya..Faten rugi dahlah dapat Aids..masuk neraka pulak tu..

Tie Sofia said...

mmmm...penyakit nie zaman nabi lut a.s lagi...sama2 kita doakan..pintu taubat masih terbuka...sebelum terlambat kembalilah ke pangkal jalan..sebelum ajal....amin ya rabalalamin..walahualam..

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